Be Careful What You Ask For
Posted on January 30th, 2018
At the risk of sounding whiny, let me just say that retirement is a lot harder than I ever thought it would be. When I was most overwhelmed throughout my teaching career, I imagined what it must be like to have seemingly unlimited free time, to have control over how to spend each day. Be careful what you ask for, as the old saying goes…
When I retired from teaching four years ago, I encountered challenges I never dreamed of. Instead of writing daily, sewing beautiful quilts, and filling my loved one’s mailboxes with homemade cards, I found myself spiraling downward into an abyss of online articles that made me feel informed, but left me spending days without accomplishing much else.
I’ve found good advice as I’ve searched online for tips on being productive. Just this morning, I read a helpful post on the Grammarly “The Ultimate Guide to Being Productive as a Writer.” Two of the tips resonated with me: “Set priorities and stick to them” and “Where no deadline exists, invent one.” Since Christmas, I’ve returned to my previous habit of setting goals and making lists in a journal that my son Keith gave me. When I taught, my lists were my real boss (though I never told any principals that!). Somehow if it’s on the list, I have to do it. This approach seems to be working for me, as I’ve posted 15 days in January, whereas I had only one post from September 2017 to the end of the year.
One irony of spending more time writing is that I’ve also accomplished so many other things on my list of priorities. Not only has writing NOT been a waste of my time, it has made me more productive in all other areas. A win/win situation as the cliche goes!
Thanks for spending a few minutes with me today. Try making a list and see how it works for you!
Thanks, Connie for such a wonderful post. I, too, am at home not working (at least at the moment) and find many projects waiting to be started, but none actually getting done. When I was working, I had a list of daily “chores,” whether it was housework or personal goals, and they all seemed to have slipped away with so much “other” stuff to do. I guess it’s time to sit down, write out my daily lists (and not put them on my phone as they are easier to ignore) and just get back to getting things done again.
Trisha
It’s a good thing I read your post, since I’ve been facing the same problem lately. I knew when I retired that I would have to work at seeing other people (besides my husband and daughter), and I have succeeded at that pretty well. But since my husband died two years ago, I’ve had a very difficult time structuring my days. I’ve known forever that deadlines work for me, but ONLY if they are other people’s deadlines. When I can learn to meet my own deadlines, maybe then I’ll feel I’m finally a grownup. 😉 Thank you for the encouragement.
Are you near the wildflower park in Texas? My daughter went to library school in Austin 20 years ago.
Glad to hear my post resonated with you, Sonia. I am in West Texas, about a two hour drive to where the wildflowers are prettiest. The scenery here isn’t much, but the people are the best. 🙂
Congrats that writing is making you more productive!
I have found I think much more clearly the more I write.
Thank you for sharing your journey!
Connie,
Thanks for a timely post. I am one of the wonders and web hoppers who lose track of time while browsing online. I do make lists and often have to carry forward.
I am going to follow your advice of making list & completing everything on a list.
Best wishes.
Purviben
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